I believe life’s greatest happiness is found in good relationships. Likewise, life’s deepest hurt is found in bad or broken relationships. Married or single, young or old, every human has two things in common: relationships and the emotional need to feel loved. When the latter is met, the quality of the former increases significantly.
People can learn the skills that lead to loving and being loved well.
You may be surprised that when something is done with a positive and caring heart, a chore can turn into a labor of love.
From the author of the 5 languages of love.
He shared the below:
WORDS OF AFFIRMATION:
For a sibling: Draw out the untapped potential of a sibling this week. You know them better than most, so take some time to encourage him or her to continue growing in their skills and gifts!
ACTS OF SERVICE:
For your parents: Do meal prep for your parents to store in their fridge/freezer for when life gets busy. Leave a note on each meal reminding them how thankful you are for the countless meals they have made for you.
For anyone: Getting mail is always fun! Think of someone who could use a little extra encouragement this week, and send them a small gift by mail. They will appreciate the gesture AND the treat.
For a long distance relationship: Read a book to each other over the phone and discuss it together, like a very small book club! It’s great to share meaningful things together as much as you can.
For a loved one: Make a goal to give two backrubs this week to your loved ones who might be extra stressed or worried this week.
Show some love to anyone around you and not expect anything in return.
Have you ever had someone say to you, “I just feel like you’re not listening to me when I talk”? Quality conversation requires active listening. If we are not actively listening to others, our responses will make it clear to them that we didn’t fully engage what they were saying. This can be frustrating and often discourages them from opening up in the future.
If you value others and want to listen more effectively when they speak, here are a few suggestions:
- Maintain eye contact. This keeps your mind from wandering and communicates to others that they have your full attention.
- Drop other activities while the other person is talking.Although it’s possible to watch TV or check your phone while listening to another, the message they receive when your attention is diverted is, “I’m not very important to you.”
- Listen for feelings and reflect what you hear. By repeating back what you think you are hearing, you tell others you are listening. Plus, this gives them the opportunity to clarify their feelings or desires.
- Observe body language.Clenched fists, trembling hands, or tears can help you gauge the strength of feeling behind the other person’s words. The stronger the feeling, the more important your undivided attention becomes.
When you find yourself in conversations today, notice how you listen to others. If you find you are not listing as actively as you could, try some of these steps, and watch to see if your conversations become more life-giving to others
“From the author of the 5 languages of love”
Sometimes you just need to live a simple life. Trying to hard at life can be death.
When you get to the point where you know your happiness lies even in the madness that is going in and around you. Love and light are nothing you get outside of you but inside you.
There is a time when you get to the point where you make decisions for yourself, even if the decisions you make go against what you believe in or values you grew up with. Make new ones your own, question those you that you feel like they are not working for you anymore. The greatest thing to appreciate about life is that we learn every day and we discover ourselves as we go. There is a freedom in inventing yourself.
All you are and do is who you are inside out. What you decide to do without second guessing yourself, without checking in with your best friend, mom, dad or whoever is your sounding board, then you know you doing whats right for you, gods voice inside you is always there guiding you. It is quite and beauty about it is that it trusts you to just listen to it.
You live, you love, you give yourself to family, children, partner, friends, work etc. When all that you give yourself to never seem to be noticed, enough or even exist. When you start wondering what you do for who, why and how and expecting a reaction or some sort of reciprocity, know that you have lost the sense of self and purpose. Nothing is about others more than for yourself.
“It’s not what you take when you leave this world behind you. It’s what you leave behind you when you go.”
Start again, check in with yourself, who you are and what you do daily for you and not anyone else, do whatever feels right and do it better than you think you can. Find that something gets you to go on for yourself and not for anyone else.
Always tell and share your truth, as that is your authentic life.
There is nothing more wonderful than being proud of yourself.
Rejoicing in who you are and being the content of your character gives the heart a sense of peace that no otherworldly treasure could give.
Bask in the warm glow of these wonderful statements that revel in the joy of being true to yourself.
Being true to yourself means those who mind you do not matter, and those who matter do not mind you.
An imperfect, mad, and ridiculous personality is much better than being absolutely boring.
You should not take others’ personality; you already have your own.
No matter how mad your personality seems, just follow your own moonlight.
- My Precious human life
- Support from my closest family and friends that I talk to on a daily basis
- The professional support in my career and individuals who constantly see beyond better and best
- The father of my kids
- My daughters Thando and Mbali who are my number fans, who celebrate me at my worst and best